Hun, I really feel for you. I know it's easy for me to say don't feel guilty, I think it's a natural thing to feel but please know that it does get easier in time. If you ever want to talk please feel free to PM me anytime.
Hun, doctors don't say things like that if they are not 100% sure, its sounds to me like you didn't really have a choice and made the most humane choice for your baby. It's a horrible situation to be put in and completely unfair, but please don't blame yourself for some you had no control over. I really advise speaking to a councillor, I have heard that SIDS also deal with these types of cases, but some of the other girls may suggest another org.
Oh hun, I am so so sorry you've had to make such a heart breaking decision for you and your baby. I must say, I always said that if there was anything wrong with my baby so his or her quality of life was greatly compromised, I would do the same as you. I think women should think of what the baby's life might be with terrible dissabilities and illnesses, and think less of their own 'needs'. It is the baby that ends up living with pain, which I think in turn would make us feel very guilty in the end.
You've made the right choice hun, you are a truly brave and strong lady.
I would also recommend councelling too, I'm still going to mine after almost 6 months and it's helping me to move on and deal with my loss.
Many hugs hun
Beata xxx
I am so very sorry you have had to go through this.
I think you are so brave and selfless for making what must of been one of the hardest decisions of your life. You did it for your little girl and put her needs ahead of your own - that makes you an absolutely fantastic mother!
I wanted to pm you but for some reason couldn't so I will just post this anyway.
Part and parcel of being a good mother is knowing when to let go. It is the hardest thing to do and the guilt and grief can be overbearing.
Our circumstances are different but I wanted to share this with you, we switched off our little girls life support when she became very sick. No matter how we felt all we have ever wanted is to provide our children with a good quality of life. She was not going to get this and the treatments were not helping, prolonging her suffering would have been selfish.
Everyday I look at her picture and know that we did the very best we could under the circumstances. I often wish we had have acted sooner so she was not subjected to what she was.
You did the right thing for you and your baby.
If things get too tough, seek help - professional help. There are many support groups out there professionals trained to help guide you through this.
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