I'm sorry for your loss. You know deep down you didn't do anything to cause it, but we all think that way from time to time. It's really hard when you've told people and trying to get those few words out after a m/c is incredibly hard to do but it has to be done.

Grieve your loss, cry as much as you need to. I still cry now and then over my losses, usually completely out of the blue.... in fact I've done it a lot lately. I found the support I got in the m/c threads was what got me through as no one IRL seemed to understand what I was going through. Be prepared for some heartless comments from people who just don't understand at all. Just take it on the chin and write about it in here. We understand. Take care.