Kate, you should be feeling whatever you need to feel at that particular point in time. Nobody can tell you how to feel, and you really can't deny your feelings - tried that, didn't work. To go through a loss is extremely devestating - doesn't matter how long you were pregnant, it's something that can absolutely shatter your world, so don't ever think that your loss was less significant that someone else's.

I can understand the fear of trying again. My fertility specialist has insisted that I see a psychologist to deal with my anxiety and depression before he will allow us to use another embryo. May sound strange, but it's exactly what I need. Yes, I'll be very scared going into another transfer - worried it won't work, worried it will work and I'll have another miscarriage, and probably a little worried that it will work and I'll end up having a baby... I need to develop some strategies to stop those worries taking over my life when we get there.

I think I'm beginning to take over. What I'm trying to say, in my long-winded and rambling way (I really shouldn't post this early in the morning) is that it's important to talk through how you are feeling. This forum has been an amazing support for me in working through the pain of my miscarriage, and I hope you will find it just as supportive and helpful as I did.

BW