Cindee- i am so sorry for both your precious losses. i wish my tears could heal your pain, but i know only too well that they cannot. it isn't fair, not at all. you have so much grief to bear. keep on doing what you need to do for you -- it is all you can do at this point.

the look, well, yes, it is a painful addition to grief. i call it the "head tilt" because that is how everyone seems to apply the look here - with their damn heads at a 75 degree angle. sometimes i feel like applying my hand in a forceful manner to adjust their heads back to the upright position. i sometimes try to remember how horribly clumsy i was around grief before i lost Yeti, and then i try to give those people the benefit of the doubt that they just don't understand and hopefully never will. but sometimes i just want to slap them. depends on the day.

i hope you find the support you need, from friends, family, a local support group and/or bb. all of those have helped me plow through some of the darkest days in my life. big hugs to you, xxoom