Thank you Water_lily your words are sweet and kind It is so hard when babies are lost around that 20 week mark because they are either a m/c or stillbirth but either way they are a baby......... a REAL baby. Perhaps by inviting people along they may get a better understanding of your grief and it may make them realise that Thomas is a real baby. Do you have pictures of his little feet or hands or even foot or hand prints that you could display? While it is so hard, I believe it is up to us as bereaved parents to educate society that babies lost are always in our hearts and dreams and although we can't hold and see them, they are still very very real to us.

I truely agree with you about the gift from our angels. I believe this baby will carry part of Cooper's soul.