Hi StarrySky

I am so sorry for your loss.... make sure you take care of you and DP.

I have had 3 missed miscarriages so I think the statistics that you have are incorrect. Basically a missed miscarriage is one that doesn't come away naturally, what I mean is getting your period which is what I think they mean with yours. The fact that they say 4-5 weeks. They have all these fancy names for things but you miscarried a baby no matter what. You were nine weeks (in your mind).... you were still planning the future of this child whether it was a blighted ovum or a foetus or a yolk. In my case if I had waited I would eventually have bled but I didn't want that I wanted a D&C so I could move on.... each to there own. Don't read too much at this stage you are still grieving and as you say the more you read the more confused you get. I got to the point where I didn't know who to believe....
Take it from me they only test after the third m/c so what the surgeon is telling you is minimal information. Yes there is no reason for you not to try again and isn't it wonderful that you can fall pregnant but it doesn't make the hurt any less. You had still started to plan....
You have come to a great place for support, the people here on this site are amazing. I come in daily for my fix of bravery and reality.
Please take time to grieve and look after you and your Partner. It's a really tough time for both of you but you will come through it.