StarrySky, I found myself in a very similar position to yours not long ago. After 19 months TTC and IVF we were pregnant and ecstatic. A scan at what should have been 8.5 weeks measured at 7 weeks and had no heartbeat. We'd seen the heartbeat only two weeks earlier. My FS explained that when the baby died, the sac would start to shrink, so the fact that you measured at 4-5 weeks doesn't mean that's how long ago that the baby passed away - it's because of the shrinkage. The testing that would have been done is standard - to check for a molar pregnancy. It is possible to get further testing done even after only one miscarriage (we are going through this now), you just need to find the right doctor to do it.

Now that the clinical discussion is over with... I am so very, very sorry for your loss. It does take time to move on from here, be gentle with yourself and your partner. BB has been an amazing support for me, and I hope it will prove to be the case for you also. I wish I was welcoming you to the site under much happier circumstances.

BW