Starrysky
Sorry to hear about your baby. Its not the nicest thing to go through.
I lost my angel 11 months ago and I am still having probs. I think of it as a roller coaster ride with its ups and downs and twirls etc. It can be very draining at times. Just take it a day at a time.

When I lost my angel I/DH sms everyone as we were not up to talking to anyone about it.
Also I found that my DH seemed to keep his tears hidden from me so in the begining I felt that I was going through it by myself. So if your partner seems to be holding it in he is probably hiding his tears. they don't like to cry in front of us girls.

I can answer one thing for you. "Fetal pole" is what they call a baby with no heart beat I think as that is what I was told I had. the hormones can take a while to settle also.
I under stand the not TTC again for a while, as I was told its best to wait for a few months to make sure everything is ok after the m/c. Your body has gone through a big ordeal so let it heal and let yourself morn the baby.

to morn my angel I planted a white rose in the garden and I was given a nao angel for my display case, I have also found a couple of songs (ballads) that help me when I am down and I sit and listen to them, and it seems to help.

I hope I have helped
Big Hugs

Chris