Oh Vanessa, im so sorry for your loss. You have every right to grieve. For me it wasnt just the loss of a baby but the loss of a dream and hopes for the future that you begin to create when you find out your going to have a baby.

I kept thinking, why me? why my little angel? what did I do wrong? I still dont think I understand why and no matter how much I tell myself, 'it wasnt meant to be' it just feels like a lie im trying to convince myself of. Some people dont realise that when a women finds out she is going to have a baby she immediately feel love for her child, a sense of nuture and a strong desire to protect them. Perhaps thats why we feel like failures when things go wrong, we feel we have failed to protect them, that our love just wasnt enough, but thats just not true.

Its such a positive thing to share your feelings, and find support in others, especially those who understand the feelings involved in the grieving process of a m/c.

Again Im so sorry for your loss, the BB forums have offered so much support for me and have helped me express some very difficult emotions but most importantly have made them feel like valid, important emotions which I have the right to feel.

Issy.