Hi Vanessa,

I too lost my baby recently and was told by the doctor in the ED that I didnt really have a baby there to loose. I have worked in medical practices for a long time and did not think that it was the right thing to say. For me I had a baby growing in me and to have that taken away so quickly in body and then in soul really hurt.

The sonagrapher was also very rude and asked me if I was sure of my dates, when I said yes no doubt his words were very harsh and not needed. He said "well this isnt the size of a nine week sac". I knew straight away that there was something wrong as I could not even see a baby form on the screen.

It ended up being diagnosed as a blighted ovum, and I had a d&c 4 days later.
I am totally with you on the trying again thing. I just want to get pregant again as it took 2 years the last time. I dont want to even consider having to wait that long again.

To make things even harder for DH and I, my DH brother and his wife told us 1 week after MC that they are expecting their baby 3weeks before I would have been due and now good friend has told me that she is due 3 weeks after I would have been due. I mean how much am I supposed to handle at any one given time.........

I have just started AF. 1st once since D&C so look out next month. Here's hoping that AF will stay away

Sorry that my post is long, but you seem to be in the same boat as I am and I completely understand all those feelings that you are feeling.
I just hope that you can have some comfort in the knowledge that we are all here to help each other through this time when there seems to be no where else to go.
To you and I hope things get better for you really soon.

All the Best
Kim