Alison - I must have not been reading properly, so sorry if my earlier post upset you... but why are you petrified of miscarrying naturually?

And about your question about how you cope? You just do, because it's what you've been confronted with. You would never in your wildest dreams/nightmares, think you could ever get through, but in my experience, you do manage to cope with the heartache and all the physical things you have to endure. You will probably be a different person, and your coping may be different to what you expect, but you find a way through. And really why shouldn't you be different? Your world has changed. You will get through. I believe in you.