Lilium, i am so sorry for your loss of your baby. i wish i had wise words like the ones above about your partner's response. my heart goes out to you, and i just wanted to assure you that it is not your fault that you lost your baby. i hope you can work things out with him, because that support and shared grief can be a saving grace in a dark time. at the same time, don't accept blame for something you did not cause or even desire. as someone said above, we all have such strong and contrary emotions about pregnancy -- it is such a huge step, especially for women's lives. be good to yourself, allow yourself to grieve for this baby. big hugs, xxoom