partner blames me

[Rowie]

Hi Lilium
After having 3 m/c education is the best way to be armed. Your partner doesn't understand what has happened and calmly sitting down with him and learning about it all together will be a great help. Please do not blame yourself, it is really hard not to but there is nothing you could have or should have done that would have made any difference with your angel staying here. God knows I have gone over it a thousand times in my head. You have come to a great place for support, there are many of us here that have been through it too.
Make sure you take care of you.

[chris]

Lilium
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
I hope your partner comes around soon and sees the error of his ways.
It was not your fault at all, You did nothing wrong.
I hope he reads the info you give him and learns that he is a very bad boy.

Take care
Chris

[munchy]

Oh honey i just came across your post i am so sorry to hear of your loss and your DP is being out of order there is no way this was your fault not one bit these things to all of us and there is nothing we can do. Men def grieve and respnd differently to us girls my DH grieved totally different to me when we lost our little girl and i thought at time he was a pig i have had councelling which helped a lot but i think like you said take him home the info you have and try and make him understand and say thats its ok to my angry about loosing the baby but dont be angry towards you as you are feeling the loss just as much and that you love him hopefully he will come round i feel for you honey let me know how it all goes.

Munchy xxx