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**diannescruffy** · April 23rd, 2008, 10:12 AM

Hi Meredith,
Big hugs to you hun, so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you during this tough time, we are here for you. Have hope hun, two years ago I had a stillbirth and our baby had Trisomy 13 (not sure the difference with Trisomy 15) but we now have a healthy baby girl. Your dream can still come true.
Regards,
Dianne

**Lee** · April 23rd, 2008, 03:08 PM

Hi Meredith,

What a tough time you are going through right now. I don't have any great advice - other than to say - I don't think you are that old at 36! I'm 39, I had a Trisomy 21 pregnancy last August, had an early miscarriage in November, and fell pregnant in December with this one, which looks perfectly healthy. I think you just have to keep trying, and eventually you will hit the jackpot. I have no experience of pnd, I live in Tassie - I did ask my Ob about it and he said it's not available here, and would require many trips to Melbourne - all seemed a bit hard. So we just decided we have had our "bad luck" and to keep trying. I do think my early (5 weeks) miscarriage may have been another chromosonal problem - but at least that time my body did what it was supposed to do. I'll never know for sure, but it seems a bit of a coincidence.

Hang in there, whatever you decide to do - but most of us know the urge to have children is greater than the fear of not trying

Lee xo

**Kitt3n** · April 23rd, 2008, 03:34 PM

Oh Meredith, i really dont know, i just wanted to say this just sux, and you shouldnt have to go through all this.

**Inanna** · April 23rd, 2008, 04:28 PM

More hugs special woman...

I understand your fears about your age, I really do. Chromosomal abnormalities occur more frequently in women over 35 - this seems to be a reality. That does not mean all women over 35 will have a chromosomally challenged pregnancy. Try really really hard to remember that my love. I had 3 early miscarriages that I believe were likely to be due to a chromosomal abnormality. As you know I was 38 & 39 trying to conceive a baby. Yes, it ws a fear I held. I knew my choice would be to interrupt a pregnancy with a child with a chromosomal abnormality. The pain would have been immense. I had to work really really hard to abate those fears.

I am here if you need anything. All I can do now is send my love to you and your babies. I have thought of you often over these past few days. Know you will get through this and hold tight to your dream. This is a very painful hurdle, but you WILL hold another baby in your arms.

Lots of love and long squishy hugs...

**MeredithD** · April 23rd, 2008, 09:40 PM

Thanks ladies. Knowing someone else is at least listening to my babble is comforting.
Unfortunately, my run of "bad luck" just continues on. I think i am the 'rare complication" queen!
Had confirmation today with a scan that i have retained"products" (something i've known myself within a few days of the D&C). Enough in there that FS really thinks i'll need another D&C. However, she reffered me back to OB who wants to try medical treatment first
I'm not really happy with either option.
D&C - risks of damaging my girly bits,Ashermanns syndrome etc. Medical treatment - going to drag on at least another 5-7 days and no guarantee I still won't need a D&C.
I agreed on medical or rather couldn't be bothered fighting for anything else so getting prepared for a really cruddy w/e and back for scan Monday. Kind of expecting i'll be having yet another D&C on Tuesday.
I am just sooooo tired and over all of this. Really,really sick of being the rare complication patient.
I can't even have a "normal" miscarriage!!!