Babyhopes,
I am so sorry for your loss. I know how you feel as my story is similar to yours. I had started spotting at 11 weeks and then went in for a scan and her little heart had stopped beating. It is such a hard time so allow yourself to grieve. I am sorry you had such a bad experience with your doctors as well you would think they would of been more understanding considering the circumstances, did they expect you to miscarry naturally? My ob actually told me to get the d&c as at that stage in the pregnancy it would be painful and distressing to me.
Anyway I pray you have a baby in your arms soon.
Take care