I am sorry to read of things like this! You are doing all you can by being there for her but remember you have to grieve too..... I feel so sad for you all..
Know we are all thinking of you and your friend and her family, the next few weeks/month will be really difficult for everyone, you will never forget but it will get easier wiith time I have had 2 brothers die in the past and there is not a day i dont think about them but now (20yrs and 10 years later) i mainly think of all the good things in their short lives and not so much about their deaths, jut what they brought to our lives and how they both have made me the person i am today!
Mel - I am so sorry to hear about your friends little girl, it is devastating. You are doing the best thing for her right now and that is to be with her, cry with her, scream with her. Big hugs to you and your friend and her family
mel, what a wonderful friend you are. i am 3 months on after loosing my little girl at 2 1/2 weeks old. i guess all i can say from my experience is to be there for her but understand if she doesnt want you there - its so hard to take on everyone's grief as well. i know i felt like i had to comfort everyone else .. but when she's ready, talk about her child by name, it does help to know that they weren't just a dream.
What a terrible thing for your friend to have to go thru. And you are a wonderful friend for being there. Someone suggested getting ideas from a support network (Bonnie Babes or SIDS or something) - I think that is a fantastic idea. Their counsellors are trained to deal with these scenarios and their tools maybe just the thing your friend needs to cope whilst she battles her way thru.
And don't forget, there is lots of support and help here - but you already know that, right?
all i can say is am so sorry for her loss but i think you are a truely wonderful person to be trying to support her at such a difficult time. Make sure you take some time out also as it will impact on you strongly as her friend .:hugs:
Mel i wish i could find some words that might make some sort of sense of this tragedy but to tell you the truth, i have nothing, i feel totally empty when i read of things happening like this. I cant begin to understand the grief the mother must be feeling, and you as a friend, trying to be strong but emotionally wrecked inside as well. I think you are the true meaning of friendship, and i wish everyone had a friend like you.
please take care of yourself and the poor family going through this terrible tragedy.
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