*groan* Will we EVER be rid of the people who think that ASD is related to parenting??? WHY do they have to dwell on that part?

I know having parenting help and advice helped us come together as a couple and be able to work on things together, but BUT it did not "fix" the issues... and that is how we knew it was something more.

Having a second child, well we didn't have a diagnosis at the time we conceived Jovie. BUT DH wanted 2 children, he couldn't leave Matilda without a sibling, and I wanted heaps of children... we thought we weren't sleeping anyway, may as well have a newborn while we weren't sleeping. made sense to us at that time!! My mother's exact words were "If you can't cope with one, why would you have another?" Noice....

Now, DH is getting the snip. We really wouldn't be able to cope if we had another child, and one on the spectrum. My dream of having a boy is gone now. I no longer feel devestated over it, and am ready to go on our journey another way. It sounds sad and resigned but I'm okay with it all really.

Lulu mate.... I did that for months, from November - April.... I went back and forth as to if we really needed assessments, or if we should just move on and accept things. In that time, Matilda developed more quirks, more flapping her arms when she got frustrated, more flicking of her fingers.... all of that sort of stuff.... so now she had more obvious traits it was easier.