Thanks so much for everyones opinions.
I had a chat with DF when he got home from work and he told me not to worry about it. He absolutely doesn't want a Chinese name for Jamie, and certainly not on the birth certificate. *pheeew lol*
in regards to the Chinese name they choose, well there isn't much we can do about it becoz they will prob just do it anyways inspite of what we say.

I'm certainly not letting her decide on the day I give birth. Lol DF just laughed and said no way. So to save us the trouble of arguing we aren't bringing that one up with the inlaws and if I do get to choose my date, it will be what is right for us and we will be just telling them it is doctors orders and not open for discussion

So thanks everyone for all ur input, unreally helped me step up and put my foot down