Advice on being forced to use a Chinese name

[feeb]

If your DF is on same wave length as you re name, I would get him to speak to his family.

Maybe they can pick a Chinese name to call him BUT it will not be official on birth certificate more of a family nickname IYKWIM.

Good luck

[Mum2SweetCs]

Hi there

I'm chinese and i know how superstitious (or i call it superstupid sometimes) Chinese parents can be. For example, we weren't allowed to have a baby in year of the Tiger due to our clashing of signs etc (not that it would have stopped us).

Anyway, I usually just nod and ignore. THey can have a chinese name for bub that probably they will only use.

DD does not have a chinese name at all but my parents call her KK for short (not really a chinese name but with a chinese accent =)

Anyway, if you think you would offend them, just compromise and tell them they can use that name when your bub is at their house only.

[Lulu]

Could you have the Chinese name as a second middle name? They can call bubs that name and you can call him Jamie. What if it's a really coooool name and you like it anyway?

I picked a Chinese name for DD2, but xp didn't like it *grumble

[YoYo]

Are you Chinese?

Its nice that you are considering your in-laws out of respect....but what about respect for you?

Maybe a compromise can be made, but I think that if you and your DF have made a decision, then you should stick to it. The Chinese do a lot of whacked out things in the name of tradition and superstition.

[Feijoa Mum]

My DH is Maori and all our children have Maori middle names. This was my choice too though.
My MIL calls them all by their Maori names and introduces them to others by these names too. She says these are their maori names an their real names are their english ones.
It really irratates me
She even put only their middle names in the paper for their Koro's (grandfather) death notice.
Nobody knows them by their middle names so it was almost like they werent included in it. I knew they were but unless you knew us and our kids you would have thought they werent.

I try (and fail) to tell her that their names are as given on their birth certificates but she wont listen so I have given up and now choose my battles.

Families are hard work, especially in laws but I agree if you and DH feel strongly about it stick to your guns. Chances are your in laws will do what they want anyway

[Liz]

I agree, you and your husband need to be on the same page, and that's all that matters.

My IL's went and found out my kid's chinese names. Think i wrote them down somewhere PMSL. Certainly aren't on the birth certificate. DH's drivers licence is such a pain cos it has his name twice... in English, then in phonetic Chinese... and so people think his last name is Chong LOL. When that's just part of his first name (they write the last name first). My IL's aren't pushy at all with Traditions which is good.

Anyway... definitely agree the only person you need to be compromising with is your DH.