I tend to agree with StarBright and MistyFying
Try and explain why she is being smacked and what she did to "deserve" having a tap on the bottom. I also think it's a good idea to help her to tell the whole story, like for instance she tells the cashier at the shop that daddy hurt her. Ask her to tell the cashier WHAT daddy did. She will then probably say that he hit her bottom. Then ask her WHY did daddy smack her. The she will hopefull (I say hopefully, because if not explained and understanded, it could turn on you) say because I pinched my sister. Strange situation avoided and explained. That will only work if you explain to her that she is getting a hiding because she pinch her sister for no reason and that pinching is unexeptable.
That is how I was raised and at some point we became aware that after telling ppl that daddy hurt me, he spanked me because I hit my sister with a wet towel, is embarresing, because I (the one doing the initial hitting) was in the wrong, kwim?? You don't go blab the whole world that you got a speeding ticket because you were drunk, kwim? Stupid thing to compare with, but I am sure you get the picture.
I am for a smack (firm slap on the bottom - NEVER IN THE FACE) when it is done in love and explained properly.
ETA - Did not realise there are a page 2!!!! SORRY!!!!
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