I don't think I actually slept in my bed for the first 6 weeks - I more or less camped out on the recliner chair and held him for that time. I rejoiced every time I could put him down for half an hour!

It does get easier, you're trying BF which is great, I was trying to express, sterilise, do FF and BF and my life was hell - but after a little while both Pip & I sorted each other out and we both would sleep.

Can you get your parents / his parents / friends / anyone to help you and your partner? Kaz Cooke wrote in her book something like "get every guest to fold a basket of washing" and don't be afraid to accept help. Everyone loves a new life - so if you have your church or community coming to visit and offering to clean, accept it. If they bring frozen meals - then accept and smile. It's really hard going - but so worth it.

if you're having trouble settling him, get other people to do it - the smell of you and your milk could be stimulating him. good luck!

*hugs*

you're doing a great job, stick with it.