Sorry - just had to post again. Please please please ignore those books. I read them all before my DD was born too and worried I was the worst mother in the world because my baby wasn't doing what the books said she should be doing. Unfortunately our babies can't read so we have to play by their rules, not the books!!

Willow is right - it does get so much easier. The first few weeks of having a baby can be the most frustrating, depressing and disappointing - I felt I was doing everything wrong and on more than one occasion wondered how my baby would survive my incompetence. BUT in no time at all, just a couple of months, you will find that your own intuition is what you need to listen to. Nobody knows your baby like you do so trust your instincts. They are all different so just because one baby is doing one thing, it doesn't make your baby "wrong" by doing something completely different. Hang in there, and in no time you too will feel like one of those women where everything comes naturally and easily.