Parenting tips for stuborn 3 year old HELP!!!

[squidipa]

i am thinking that maybe just maybe this is one of those situations that ya cant just fix. Ya just have to some how roll with it.

[{sarah}]

I have one of those too!!! All I can offer are my sympathies

[MantaRay]

If you find any answers, let me know!!!

[aussienic]

hi,, I too have one of these kids.. Jacob has days where I am close to or in tears out of absolute frustration.. his tantrums get on top of me some days and the other kids get neglected at times so I can deal with him..

The one thing I find that does work (occassionally) is to get on my knees take a hold of his shoulders and ask what is wrong? What can mummy do to fix it? and if all else fails I tell him he is hurting my feeling by yelling at me.. and then I ask for a huggle.. It doesn't always difuse the situation but it helps..

Jacob was very much like your son when We brought our DD home.. The biggest thing we found that helped was getting him to help us with her. He would get the nappies, wipes and put the nappy in the bin for us.. Wash her feet when it was bath time. help me dry her ect...

I found time out didn't work if Jacob went to his room.. i try to be consisten when he is being really painful and I make him sit by the front door. I don't make him sit there for any specific amount of time but just enough to make him stop what he is doing and take a break.. he doesn't like that. but usually settles down..

gosh I could go on and on but my DD is now awake..

[squidipa]

The one thing I find that does work (occassionally) is to get on my knees take a hold of his shoulders and ask what is wrong? What can mummy do to fix it? and if all else fails I tell him he is hurting my feeling by yelling at me.. and then I ask for a huggle.. It doesn't always difuse the situation but it helps...

I have explained to him he hurts my feelings and that it hurts here in my chest when he does not do what momma asked him to do. He gets high PRAISE for good behavior but now with baby its like i dont have time to follow through to the extent i want to unless i leave the baby in hysterics. Its sorta like a no win situation. EVERYONE is getting left out and everything. i find hubbie is force feeding me at night as i am just falling alseep buggered.

I fear that if i dont follow through with what i am asking the 3 year old to do... he will know he never has to do anything i say. he is Beyond stubborn GRRR thats my blood line (Indian). Trying to get him to do 1 thing at times can take hours. I dread waking in the mornings and sleeping at night as i know what my day may intail.

[Charlyfrog]

sounds like just pure attention grabbing, unsure of the world right now as a baby has invaded his space and even his time with mummy? Is it worth letting some things go as in turning a blind eye to particular behaviour for a minute? So no response from mummy is actually not what he was after iykwim? Even walking over his tantrums - I've done this with DD#1 a couple of times coz I swear, if I opened my mouth it was going to get worse and this might go against the grain but in the midst of his attention seeking behaviour, give him attention but a big happy mummy cuddle and "I love you so so much!" and pretend you don't even notice his naughty moment?

These are things we've chucked into our repertoir every now and then coz DD can go a bit nutso and we find trying the whole conversation thing when she's all wired up is actually counter productive for us. Its when she is calm and quiet and in a good mood, we can chat about the 'moment' and even get some of her feelings out about it.

I love the idea of getting him involved with baby too, great advice.

Sorry not much help with any profound wisdom as I feel as though I am flying by the seat of my pants sometimes but am thinking of you

[~clover~]

My 3 year old is playing up lately too. I think is just the age. They realise they can push you & test their boundaries & will do anything to see if you are true to your word.
All the advise I can give is to stick to it & be consistant. Try to always remain calm too. Flying off the handle doesn't help.
They should grow out of it soon. Well they bl00dy better! I'll go mad other wise!
Sorry I can't help much, but just know that you aren't the only one.