Spending heaps of time with them helps I think. Today we've had a great day & I think it's all because of teh time we've spent together. We've jumped on the trampoline together, played outside, sat down & had morning tea together, played the computer, read books... I haven't had to yell once today, so I think it might be helping. Sure no cleaning got done until he went down for his nap, but that's cool, I'd prefer a messy house & no yelling any day!