Parenting tips for stuborn 3 year old HELP!!!

[Charlyfrog]

sounds like just pure attention grabbing, unsure of the world right now as a baby has invaded his space and even his time with mummy? Is it worth letting some things go as in turning a blind eye to particular behaviour for a minute? So no response from mummy is actually not what he was after iykwim? Even walking over his tantrums - I've done this with DD#1 a couple of times coz I swear, if I opened my mouth it was going to get worse and this might go against the grain but in the midst of his attention seeking behaviour, give him attention but a big happy mummy cuddle and "I love you so so much!" and pretend you don't even notice his naughty moment?

These are things we've chucked into our repertoir every now and then coz DD can go a bit nutso and we find trying the whole conversation thing when she's all wired up is actually counter productive for us. Its when she is calm and quiet and in a good mood, we can chat about the 'moment' and even get some of her feelings out about it.

I love the idea of getting him involved with baby too, great advice.

Sorry not much help with any profound wisdom as I feel as though I am flying by the seat of my pants sometimes but am thinking of you

[~clover~]

My 3 year old is playing up lately too. I think is just the age. They realise they can push you & test their boundaries & will do anything to see if you are true to your word.
All the advise I can give is to stick to it & be consistant. Try to always remain calm too. Flying off the handle doesn't help.
They should grow out of it soon. Well they bl00dy better! I'll go mad other wise!
Sorry I can't help much, but just know that you aren't the only one.

[squidipa]

My 3 year old is playing up lately too. I think is just the age. They realise they can push you & test their boundaries & will do anything to see if you are true to your word.
All the advise I can give is to stick to it & be consistent. Try to always remain calm too. Flying off the handle doesn't help.
They should grow out of it soon. Well they bl00dy better! I'll go mad other wise!
Sorry I can't help much, but just know that you aren't the only one.

How long do i stick to it each time thats the question??? he could easily go hours i know he could!!!!

As for involvement with baby he does all the nappies gets them and puts them in bin along with getting wipes and nappy covers. He kiss's baby daily and holds his hand and helps where ever possible. He even gets blankets dummies and out fits mostly he does this of his own bat

[{sarah}]

Spending heaps of time with them helps I think. Today we've had a great day & I think it's all because of teh time we've spent together. We've jumped on the trampoline together, played outside, sat down & had morning tea together, played the computer, read books... I haven't had to yell once today, so I think it might be helping. Sure no cleaning got done until he went down for his nap, but that's cool, I'd prefer a messy house & no yelling any day!

[squidipa]

Spending heaps of time with them helps I think. Today we've had a great day & I think it's all because of teh time we've spent together. We've jumped on the trampoline together, played outside, sat down & had morning tea together, played the computer, read books... I haven't had to yell once today, so I think it might be helping. Sure no cleaning got done until he went down for his nap, but that's cool, I'd prefer a messy house & no yelling any day!

I gotta laugh and cry here well done for a start as hehe Myn refused to sleep, the baby refuses to stay asleep, House oh my, like a bombs so gone off here. My hair hasn't been brushed in so long it's a big matted oily mess. I feel like im about to have my head explode form this tiered headache ive had for 6 weeks now. Not to mention im in dirty clothes, cause washing needs doing and i am not ment to carry the baskets down the stairs due to my pelvis or hang them out so waiting on hubbie to do that tomorrow. But good on ya having time with your 3 year old thats fantastic i wish i had that but now baby takes each and every breathe out of me. I force myself to keep my eyes open as my body is totally wanting top shut off.

[Mum2boy]

Hey squidipa, sorry, I can't really help you it seems at the moment, Cooper just turned 2 a couple of weeks ago, and I'm still in shock now that the tantrums have started I used to think that perhaps we might miss the tantrums, but no, they hit big time and all at once when he turned 2!!!

Anyway, I was going to say that I can empathise with how difficult it is to have a screaming headache and a screaming child (mind you - i only have one, so I can't imagine!!)

I have suffered headaches almost daily since Cooper was born, and they used to get me down so bad, and it was hard to control my emotions and to even feel in control. It was only about 6 weeks ago, I went and saw a lady who does muscle neurology and I have only had about 3 headaches since I saw her.

Would you like me to speak with her and find out if there is anyone in your area?

Just let me know.

[squidipa]

to tell the truth i would love ya to altho it makes no difference if it isnt some one whom bulk bills FULLY sorry. Thanks for your support in this its appreciated

My other kids would very rarely do the whole ill lay on the floor and scream and kick tantrum but the 3 year olds is all just screaming in front of you and the rest when your not looking. Is that a tantrum?