Self settling

[Heaven]

Yes IMO it is too much to expect from a 4wk old (if she's not naturally doing it herself). She doesn't have any sleep problems, she is sleeping perfectly normally (and healthily) for her age. Its just unfortunate that babies sleep needs are different from ours :/

Self settling didn't happen here until 2 yrs of age (that's with letting it happen naturally/not doing anything to change it).

I found it much easier when I accepted that that's how my babies slept and stopped trying to change them. The worrying about it and trying to force them to change when they didn't want to was much more stressful than the actual problem. When I stopped resisting and stopped watching the clock at night things seemed much easier. I wish someone had told me that earlier. I know it's hard, but you'll get used to it and it will get easier