I remember a few of mine would self settle from that early age, but then they stopped doing it. I went with what they needed though, I mean, I'm 36 and I like to be cuddled to go to sleep, its a lovely feeling! So why wouldn't they like it too.

My 6.5 year old still needs DH to sit outside his room to go to sleep. I sit in with my 2 year old for her to go to sleep, then I go sit in with the 3 and 5 year olds to get them to go to sleep. So cuddling them doesn't last forever, as they get older they either fall asleep on their own (which my 5 year old will do, but not when she's sharing with her noisy 3 year old sister) or you just have to sit there. Which I don't really mind, I get to sit in a dark room with nice relaxing music and chill out whilst surfing BB and FB LOL

I think if they can self settle on their own great, but if they need help then there is nothing wrong with that either.

I also have a 15 minute limit on trying to settle a baby or toddler - just because I know in myself that I get too frustrated. So if my babies don't settle after 15 minutes of trying, then I try something different. Try to feed again, or burp again, or change a nappy, change in surroundings etc - then try again 15 minutes later.

Babies can sense stress and frustration, and I hate being cranky at a baby when they don't really know any better, they're just doing what babies do. So I put limits on myself because I know that I can't handle it for longer than that without wanting to give them away to the nearest charity LOL