MadB has summed it up in a fabulous sentence, you will often be training your baby to give up and not call for help rather than teaching them to "settle".

You're doing a great job Tasha, but I think you need to relax a little and just go with the flow a little. I know it's increadibly hard, and easy for us to sit back and tell you to chill, but the newborn phase is so increadibly short and I don't want you to regret all the time you spent trying to get your bubs to be the perfect baby, and eat and sleep on cue, as it's just not doable.

Your baby is perfect already, you just need to relax your expectations a little.

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