My dd was/is a mummy's girl. Do you have a sling? DD spent her first year strapped to me while I did things because she just needed to be close. Can you cosleep with her until this phase passes? Its madness to traipse the hallways when they wake more than twice. If DH doesn't like cosleeping, can you sleep on a mattress on the floor, or kick out DH to the couch?

It is normal for bubs to wake more frequently when you introduce solids. I know some people say it will reduce night feeding, but in my experience, it lead to more wakings...because their tummys need to get used to it.

You are doing a fabulous job. I know the house isn't perfect, but seriously, the happiness of your children is more important. I would trial a sling and see if you can at least got your normal dishes done etc...and then ring all the relatives and ask them to pitch in for a cleaner for a year instead of giving you or DH birthday/christmas prezzies! lol.

It wiill pass. Your DD is perfect, and you're a great mum. You need more support. Can any local BBers help you out? Can someone take DD for a walk in the sling and the big DD in the pram so you can go to the gym??

co-sleeping doesn't work for me, don't get me wrong i love the cuddles but she wakes a lot more often when i am in a room with her, she has been in my bed the last 4 nights and it's driving me insane, i get a sore back or arm from sleeping around her etc.
She seems to feed to sleep of a night now then in her cot and she's waking when i go to bed 9i don't check on her or anything she just seems to know), i go in and give her a quick feed and then put her back into bed but 5min later she is screaming and wanting me or wanting to settle on the boob.

I have only just introduced solids because of this behaviour so i am not sure if it is adding to it in any way, will be intersting to see if she gets worse

A cleaner would be awesome but i am not a fan of other people doing the work or going through my things, i know it soudns strange but i couldn't even let people help me pack to move... it's odd i know..

It would be great if someone could take the girls for a walk etc but we live outside of town and there are no footpaths out here, DD is happy in the pram but we don't really have relo's that can just drop by and take them.
I would love if someone could come and watch them so i could go to the gym but as she wont take EBM or a dummy it's a bit hard on peoples nerves when i leave the room and she doesn't stop screaming

Hopefully it will pass and she will be like her big sister who happily waves at me when i leave her at nanna's...