all I can do is say, 'I'd be glad to point you in the direction of some information that might help you with those decisions and help you weigh up the risks of various choices' and let them come to me if they feel they want to be educated.
Glamour I think that is the approach I am going to take (I tend not to be a pushy person so I think I have fallen into that by default).

her Dr may even be more open minded than you think. They're not all out to cut you open and rip you the shreads.
Teagz, I think my OB was one of these. Like I said in my OP I actually think my OB did pretty well given his profession's usual stance on birthing (I am thinking about sending him a belated thankyou card, actually!)

unless you created the bump, I don't think anyone else has the right to tell you how to birth or dictate your choice you make regarding your care.
I agree with this too, and I think that is what Kelly is getting at when she said she knows the feeling. It can be hard to stand by and watch women "choosing" a medicalised (or potentially medicalised) birth when in reality they are following the dictates of insurance companies.

Kelly I have been a member of the BB community for (I think) nearly 4 years now and I am so glad it is the way it is