Rory like Kelly I too know this feeling well. It is frustrating & a little heartbreaking to me when I see a Woman embarking on the journey of birth and not making informed choice. Independent investigation of the truth is imperative to good decision making.

I see women investigate a mortgage with more time investment than I do their investment in bringing their child into the world. That disturbs me deeply...

Becoming a Mother begins at conception & how a baby is birthed and how the Mother feels, responds, interacts and makes decisions around this huge event set the scene for how she parents.

That is one of the big reasons I am all for informed decision making.

Teagz I understand that birthing a baby after the loss of a baby leads us to different decisions. However, I believe your decision are informed.

I think from what Rory has said that this person is handing over her body and saying La la la I don't wanna know! That to me is a recipe for difficulty.

I would leave the dvd with a card and say: "I wish someone had shown me this when I was preparing for my first birth"...