I would be happy for him to walk away and leave us be right now.
He was a nice man at one point, but things went bad for him when he found out I was pregnant.
If he was to shape up to where he was when we were together, then it would be ok. But the person he is now...I just don't know. I keep hoping that when he says he wants to be a part he has magically changed back to old Mr.
But the reason I won't object to him being in Peanuts life, is basically because he said he wanted to, and I do want my bub to have a Dad, and I just feel as though who am I to tell him he can't be part of bubs life if he wants to be?
plus I legally can't tell him not to be :-(
Hugs xoxox
I suggest you go and seek legal advice through legal aid - Just so that you are informed and aware.
Not telling him when you are in labour is probably your safest bet for him not turning up.
Keep all of your messages and document everything (also keep copies), if he becomes to harrassing or violent this will help in the aid of a DVO. Which will be a little barrier of protection fo ryou, so you can enjoy being pregnant and not having to deal with his tantrums.
I was worried that he *might* have been able to somehow get some legal thing telling me he had to be there.
But no, I do not plan on telling him I'm in labor if I don't HAVE to.
If it were upto me, I would like to not tell him for a few months after....but that's unrealistic.
At least at the hospital there are people around, who can and will tell him and make him get out if he starts anything
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