I think that anyone should do what is going to give them the most internal peace and happiness. I know many women can only feel healed or resolve their issues if they have a VBAC, but I also know some who need the control of a c/s to be able to move on from a previous traumatic birth. I know if it were me I'd want the VBAC, but what she said to you was ignorant and projecting her issues onto you.