I am annoyed that I had to have a CS (breech/transverse bub), but more than anything that is because I knew in advance that for me surgery leads to long term scar pain. And DS is 3 but my scar still hurts.

I think that you should consider all your options as carefully as you can. It shouldn't be about feeling "more of a woman", but about weighing up the risks and benefits of each option for both you and bub. And there is of course no uber-clear-cut answer, or we would all be automatically having repeat CS's or trying for VBACs, rather than the field being split in the way it is!