Absolutely not. Breastfeeding takes no more out of you than going to the loo. pfft. She eats & drinks doesn't she? Then her body will metabolise it in an efficient way to feed her baby too.

As for the management of her birth.. well.. can't really comment because I don't really know the circumstances, but usually tearing is caused by pushing at the wrong time or not being in an optimal position.

If the midwives have those uneducated views on breastfeeding, then they could well be old school with the whole birth thing too and had her on her back and telling her when to push.

Get her in touch with the ABA as soon as possible, even shout her a breastfeeding class if you feel generous.. probably a much more valuable gift than a stuffed toy

Hope she recovers well and has lots of support around her being such a young mum.