It takes a lot of tears and a lot of work hun but you will get there... It's perfectly natural for you to feel the way you do and its great that you want to talk about it, as it certainly does help to understand what happened and what you want from future births.

bubno.3 I think your post is extremely harsh and in fact untrue. I am so thrilled for you that you have had interventional births that went well, but just because you did doesn't mean you need to discount a birth that has had unnecessary intervention which in turn lead to a traumatic birth. My Obstetrician TOLD me that my first birth was riddled with unnecessary intervention that he BELIEVED led to my C/S. Not every Ob is evil, and some can see that we have a social epidemic (as my ob called it) going on here. No one is discounting the necessities of intervention when needed to save lives, but unfortunately its not always about saving lives sometimes its about convenience, hospital policy and other politics. And for some its genuine intervention and I thank goodness for those interventions, because often without them it would be a sad day. But please don't tell a mother to get over a traumatic birth, it is no different than telling someone to get over a car accident. The feelings traumatic birth causes are very real, they aren't oversensationalised or dramatic they are REAL. And as with any trauma it is something that one works through not sucks up and moves on.