Months away but 2 big issues really worrying me

[Blixie]

no advice, just wanted to offer lots of 's
My sister was pressured into a termination 3 years before my DD1 was born but had been TTC for a year (i didn't know this) so she didn't speak to me my whole pregnancy and after birth. She made contact when DD1 was 6.5 months old. Never held her or ever really acknowledged her until she had her DS a year later... It's not the same i know but it hurt.

Hope everything works out in the end

[LuluHB]

I think Tashybabe's advice about your sister and family is better than anything I could offer you lovely. I can only give you a and hope that when your beautiful baby is born, their hearts will soften.

As for the birthday you I'm sure don't remember that when I was pregnant with Iz I was incredibly anxious the whole way through that she was NOT born on 2 May - the first anniversary of my last loss before her conception. I was induced on the morning of the 1st and the little minx got the super glue out and flat out refused to come out until the 2nd! I spent the entire night before her birth in such a state that the midwives wanted to sedate me. Poor R was beside himself not knowing what to do about me. Her birthday is now a constant reminder for me that while there is sadness and pain in my little world, there is also the unbelievable joy and innocence of a beautiful child. I know its not quite the same thing but . . . You obviously KNOW its the witch's birthday and she's had such a huge impact on your life that its not like you'll not give her a thought on the day, and no doubt suffer all the turmoil that comes with thinking of such a person. Maybe if this little person comes on the same day you will have the pure goodness of your newborn to give you a smile that day and fill your heart with love, all while not giving you a minute to think about your SIL.