no advice, just wanted to offer lots of 's
My sister was pressured into a termination 3 years before my DD1 was born but had been TTC for a year (i didn't know this) so she didn't speak to me my whole pregnancy and after birth. She made contact when DD1 was 6.5 months old. Never held her or ever really acknowledged her until she had her DS a year later... It's not the same i know but it hurt.

Hope everything works out in the end