Since we're having a homebirth i have decided not to let people know i have had bub until day 3 (ie, if bub is born on wednesday, i'll let them know on Saturday) MIL will be here for the birth and is staying for a few nights after which i will find a blessing so i can feed bub without distraction and she can entertain the other 2 kids. But other visitors will p*ss me off especially on day 2 i am asuming, as both times i have had bad baby blues on day 2.

Also you need to remember, even giving set times for visits doesnt mean you wont be feeding bub at the time as bub will feed whenever they want as they wont have a set routine yet, IYKWIM? So these people need to know this and if they come and 5 minutes later bub is hungry, you have every right to tell them to rack off (kindly lol) cause you shouldn't need to feel like you have to go into the bedroom to feed just to get away from them. Breastfeeding is hard enough without the 'advice' and gawking eyes of well meaning people.