I was just talking about this today with a second time mum.

Labour - I thought that I was tough and if I was calm and relaxed it wouldn't hurt much. So when it hurt I didn't know what on earth to do. For this time I accept that it will hurt and is hard work and I'm preparing for that.

New baby - I was told that with breastfeeding when bub was finished she would pull off. It took me a few days to realise that it didn't work both ways. So pulling off didn't mean she was finished. Does that make sense? DD would pull off after 10min and I thought she was done. But she just needed a break and a burp. I eventually learned to put her back on the same breast and let her finish. I felt so bad that I had been starving her. She lost a fair bit of weight.

Here's hoping second time is easier!