While some of the ponts from the article seemed valid, many others did not add up for me.I can understand where he is comming from, however I do disagree and feel it is an individual choice.

I have had the plesure of attending two births - one vaginal and one CS, when my sister gave birth to my neices. When my neice was born vaginaly, I was very stressed and nervous, I even threw up at one point (yes i did). The birth was all of 4 hours and went beautifuly, so I doubt that I emited anything that slowed it down, my sister was just grateful for my support. When all is said and done, while I found some of it traumatic, I wouldn't change it for anything as it was also a wonderful experience.

I also believe that when a long dificult labour occurs, that women hormones may change and she may and her husband may be stressed- purely because of the situation, not just because he is in attendence. I had a long dificult labour with my first and my DF (at the time) was snoring his head off in the birthing bean bag.

Also saying lets not have you there honey- just in case you get a mental illness like one guy once was reported to have gotten, seems a little OTT to me. Also just in case you take off after, because you are forever changed and cannot handle it. I hate to be rude but Boo Hoo, we are all forever changed after birth, suck it up men (lol). If a man takes off after he has witnessed a birth, that says to me he he was never a real man to begin with and you are better off without him, as over a lifetime especially raising children tougher more stressful situations will arise, so I just believe some men are simply put Jerks- and when the ernomity of having to look after another human being for the rest of their life dawns on them they cannot cope. Does this mean others shouldn't be allwoed in because some men arn't so great?

Some women also have trouble being intimate after child birth - does that mean we should all have a Cs to avoid it! No of course not- man or women, things may change after a birth and it is something that you need to work through sometimes. Thats life for you. And once again it is a presonal choice, I couldn't have gotten through my last birth without my husband (a CS but still)- when it comes down to it, my husbands protective mode kicks in and he does his best to make sure I am looked after, and I am grateful for it and wouldn't want it any other way. (sorry for the novel).