Hi Rainbows,

I am really sorry you had such a bad experience. All labours are different, some easier than others. I think a lot depends on your midwife, if you have a good midwife everything seems to be a lot calmer and easier. Labour can be traumatic and it sounds like this is what happened to you. I would recommend finding a good midwife or ob you trust and explaining exactly how you feel to them and taking it from there next time.