I guess we don't talk about it for a few different reasons - thinking that those listening might not want to hear so much detail, or that they are still processing it themselves. I know some people IRL who are quite up for talking about all the 'gory' details and others who view birth simply as a process you go through to get a baby and would rather not go into details. Also too I think that some dismiss what happens to them because they think that it is part and parcel of giving birth so there is no point saying anything for fear of being seen as complaining kwim? Like the whole 'at least bubs is healthy' thing. And how many birth stories do you read on here that mention they poo'ed on the bed? I think I have only read one in all my years being on here. I know I didn't include it in mine because I didn't think it was necessary to add, even though I know I'm not the only woman who's done it LOL.