Wow. I guess this is also a side effect of what's happened lately. People are going to think they have a right to get on their high horses in opposition when they don't.

Sadly reminds me of so many other times like this in history

I wouldn't go. Simple. But that's me. I'm highly offended for you. And down right angry.
I'm with Rouge - i wouldn't go. It's not "just one day" - it may be their wedding day, but it's your life, it's your sons life. it's not like you're going to go and sit on the alter and flop it out (no matter what Kochie seems to think!), you're simply going to feed your son IF he needs to be fed. you're going to comfort him so that you can be part of a wonderful family event and not scream the church down! or the reception! Not to mention if you do it "just this once" it will be expected of you every time there are family events you are all invited to - future baptisms, childrens birthday parties etc - you've done it once for the "older, conservative" relatives to make life easy for them, so you should do it every time....

it's a load of crap being asked to cover up - this is the sort of thing that encourages the likes of Kochie and his minions - that makes them think it's ok to discriminate against someone! and i'm saddened that BB members are encouraging you to just roll with it.

It's ultimately your call. if you want to feed in the church, do it. if you want to feed without a cover, DO IT. Personally, i would. not to make a point or to be in anyones face, but because you're going to the wedding to be AT THE WEDDING, not hiding outside. and i could never feed with a cover. ever. DD hated it and wouldn't attach.

if it were me, i'd reply with something like "i understand your older rellies may not be comfortable with breast feeding, but given I have no choice but to feed him, I don't believe it's reasonable for me to be expected to walk away and hide for the comfort of others - we are coming to your wedding to be AT your wedding. there is little point attending if i'm going to be expected to be outside away from the celebrations whenever Mr I needs to be fed because you're scared some older rellies may get their nose out of joint (and lets not forget it's illegal to expect it of anyone - i'm sure the media hoo ha lately has made that bit clear). i have no issue walking to the rear of the church, or even outside, if Mr I is making noise that is disturbing your ceremony, but given having him feed from me is no different, in what you can see, than holding him while he naps, no, i won't hide him, i won't leave. i'm not meaning to make life difficult for you, as i'm sure you're not trying to make it difficult for me, but i must say that you putting the perceived feelings of your older, conservative, relatives, over the realistic hurt you have caused me with the message you have sent."


FWIW - i have BF in church for "events" more than once. The most supportive people were the people I was concerned would think it was rude or inappropriate - the more conservative religious people! the "older" generation (our grandparents generation) are definitely more accepting of BF the generations that followed them (our parents and younger) - simply because it's all they knew!