So my BIL is getting married in a month to someone he has known for approximately 9 or so months now. She's a nice girl, we get a long. I just received a super long FB message from her, of which the relevant part says:

" I feel that I should let you know in advance that my family are an older crowd and are quite conservative.
Based on this I have one request of you on my wedding day, which is a very special day for me and a lot of people very dear to me, that when you breast feed Isaiah that you please DO NOT do so inside the church or in any photos. In every other circumstance can you please use a shawl.
It is nothing personal. I fully respect your personal decisions, but on my special day I ask you respect my wishes."

I'm ****ed. It's her wedding, I get that, and I wouldn't have fed him in the photos anyway. However, I have no issue feeding in a church (I regularly do it at my own) and wouldn't have thought twice about feeding in the reception. I am not using a cover. Is it rude for me to reply along the lines of 'thanks for letting me know how you feel, I will leave the church/reception when I need to feed Isaiah'.

I'm so ticked. I deliberately bought a new dress that I can feed easily and modestly in, specifically for her wedding, what's the point of spending that money now? I could just wear whatever the hell I want, screw it if I have to show more than I'd like because it doesn't matter anyway now that I'll be banished out the back to feed.

If I didn't like her I'd stage a nurse in at the ceremony lol