How about I pose a question.... Do you feel your second c/s was necessary? I know a lot of us have decided our first wasn't, but what about your second?

sadly yes

I had big plans with Nikolaus...total natural labour..no drugs.....everything was going so well...had to be induced as I was 2weeks over..after 21 hours of labour and a little boy who decided to use my birth canal as a bundgy jumping experience a c/s was ordered. I have never felt so belittled, frightened, alone and helpless as a woman in my life. I was so angry with myslef and saw black and blue my next would be a VBAC!!!!

Alongs comes boofer Wilhelm who decided at 33 weeks it would be a good time to put me through the wringer and decided he wanted out! Thank god for the drugs they gave me....I remember seeing the humicrib in the hall way waiting for me...NO!!!! put along story short....Wilhelm pushed that dame hard to get out he tore my c/s internally and I was told that if I procedded to natural labour that my c/s scare would split open and I could bleed to death. ...I was so disapointed in myself.

Come along Vy's birth....I went into early labour at just over 37 weeks....woo hoo....bring it on...I was told NO yet again...i begged and pleaded to go natural..I could feel her low but was told due to my pelvis being twisted that I was unable to give birth naturally...i was devistated to say the least.

Mateauz birth was a blur....I went into labour waiting for my c/s and he was rushed to ICU due to the cord being wrapped around his neck. He should have been born a week earlier as the after birth was badly calcified and had stopped working. he ended up with a staff infection and meningitis.

I absolutely HATE people who think they are so clever to say...ah you took the easy way out.......come walk in our shoes and tell us its easy. tells us how easy it is to be away from your baby and not knowing its alright...tell us how easy it iis when you can even put you nb on you bb's and bond straight away....its got nothing to do with the physical side of things...yes it hurts like hell when yo try to get up or you laugh but its the emotional scaring deep inside, the scar's that cant fade! My mum kept telling me go one have a c/s you dont have to go through all the pain...so a c/s is a walk in the park mum????

My body is so disformed from the 4 I have had. I still have pain on my c/s scare, I have no feeling in my lower hang over apron tummy. I dont feel sexy or whole as a woman...

Thank you Sarah for starting this thread.....its good to come and debrief and know that each of you feel the same as I do