Giving birth via c section?

[AlligatorsMum]

I had a c/s earlier this year and it wasn't how I was planning for my LO to be born but all that matters is he is here and healthy. After all isnt that why we go through pregnancy? For the baby and children it brings us - not for the"birth" experience?

Atleast that is why I went through a pregnancy.

[kelebek]

I did struggle at first with the idea that 'I' gave birth... now I have come to the conclusion that 'I' birthed DS with some help and that is ok and no different to those who VB with help (hope that makes sense) I like to think that he came via the emergency exit and can't wait for him to ask so I can show him the scar.

BTW after seeing my sister give birth vaginally and then walk back to her room with bub while I was barely able to walk to the bathroom only a few steps away there is nothing easy about a c/section.

[RhiChiChi]

I always say when I gave birth or when DD was born. To me it makes no difference to how DD was born as I had no issues with having an emerg. c-sect. I know some people don't class it as giving birth & suffered trauma from not having a vaginal birth. I don't have an issue with them saying that, that is how they feel and I respect that.

[Bella29]

seriously love ignore her. It takes even more courage to lay down for a c/s, to save your bubbas life, than it does to birth vaginally. Especially if you know how hard it can be to recover. No easy way out there, but a whole hell of a lot of sacrafice from a mamma who loves her bubba. A think you gave birth..... You gave her life and birth thru the safest method for her, with the assistance of a dr. Hugs. That is a very insensitve thing to say to you.

XX Bella

[Tegam]

Your friends an idiot!

[Charlotte91]

TBH, DD is 16mo and I still find it hard to say I gave birth. I have alot of issues over Hannah's delivery.
But, she would have died if she'd stayed in any longer. I had no choice.

I think one day I will look back and say I gave birth, but not today.

I believe it IS birth and you shouldn't be made to feel any other way. You DID birth Miss A.

Sorry to be a downer on the thread, but I had to be honest.

Much love!

[Tegam]

TBH, DD is 16mo and I still find it hard to say I gave birth. I have alot of issues over Hannah's delivery.
But, she would have died if she'd stayed in any longer. I had no choice.

I think one day I will look back and say I gave birth, but not today.

I believe it IS birth and you shouldn't be made to feel any other way. You DID birth Miss A.

Sorry to be a downer on the thread, but I had to be honest.

Much love!

Not a downer just honest!

Hugs to you

[surprised]

I've had one of each and honestly I couldn't tell you what I'd choose for a third - they were both great but both very hard and had distinct (but different) advantages and disadvantages.

The way I see it, the day a baby is born is highly important and significant, but it's just the start of a long journey of important and significant moments. It's when the real fun begins (as well as lots of tears along the way!).

At the end of the day, you're her mum and your body helped conceive her, grew her, nurtured her and released her to the outside world. And it's your arms that she'll run to when she needs comfort, your hands that hold hers and your face that will light up her smile. "Gave birth"? Meh, it's all just semantics anyway.

[mrscricket]

Is your friend my friend? Because my friend said exactly the same thing to me. And I struggled for a long time to get over the hurt. But I DID give birth to him, and it was a great experience. It shocked me to the core that someone would consider it not to a 'birth'. And the easy way out. I recovered way better from my vb than I did from my c-section

xx

[LysnDan]

Thankyou girls who have supported me.

I know I have given birth, I just felt like she shouldn't have said what she said and how she voiced her opinion. This thread was not only a vent, but to reach out to other mums who feel the same way...

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[trishalishous]

you gave birth!
ive not (yet) had a csection, but i consider my vb a walk in the park compared to what you went through!

[Charlotte91]

...just a thought...

I think maybe I would have felt more like I gave birth if I'd actually been in labour at the time. But, I was on nifedapine and just turned up at 6am for my planned c/s.
I don't have any issues with the fact that I had a c/s. I can nearly say I enjoyed it. Planned, simple and calm, recovery was fast for me. I know it was the safest way for DD. She was breech and severely IUGR, my placenta was failing fast.
I just have issues over the way that my body failed my daughter and the fact that it came to having a c/s. The fact that, because of my body, I didn't even have the chance to attempt a VB.

[~Kim~]

I was going to post a similar definition as you've already found, so I won't.
I've had 3 now and I can say honestly that until Holly's I had struggled. Not for what other people thought of them, but for my own expectations being failed.

My experience however is irrelevant to you. Some people have no idea on how what they think is simple can be so difficult for someone else.

[Artechim]

Did I read that she is a prem mum too? Perhaps she is upset with her body for not growing her bub to term and whatever other issues there were going on with the pregnancy. So to make herself feel better about everything that went wrong, she is focusing on the thing that went 'right' - giving birth vaginally. Maybe it is a case of blowing out your candle to make hers shine brighter?

Or she is just a stupid B. Of course a C-section is a birth, otherwise you would have a child that was never born.

[fionas]

I know it goes against the grain but if I really thought about it, the method of giving birth really doesn't matter to me. I don't have a deep-seated need to deliver babies vaginally but I think when I joined BB I kind of got caught up in the idea that a vaginal, drug-free birth is the pinnacle of excellence.

My first VB left me with physical pain that I still have nearly five years later (I had severe SPD which was greatly exacerbated by the pushing position I was in for nearly three hours). It meant that I couldn't be the mum I wanted to be to DD - I couldn't get down on the floor to play with her, could barely leave the house for the first six months because walking was so painful etc. etc. etc.

After that, I couldn't care less really about VB versus caesarean - I just wanted a birth that would leave me with the least amount of physical damage. Once again, when I was pregnant with DD2, I got a little caught up in the idea that a caesarean was a 'cop-out'. Indeed, some people who'd also had SPD, had the arrogance to presume that their SPD must be the same as my SPD and because they had a VB and recovered well, it meant that I should too and anything less meant that I was a bit of a loser.

Luckily, I ignored them and their near-fanaticism and had an elective caesarean with DD2.

I felt better (physically and emotionally) after my caesarean than after my VB. After my caesarean, I felt that I could be the mum I wanted to be.

And, to me, that's all that matters.

Celebrate the way you mother your baby, not how you birthed her. Birth is one tiny part of being a mum. Lovely if it's everything you imagined but really, in the whole scheme of things, not that important (to me).

[Maruschke]

I know it goes against the grain but if I really thought about it, the method of giving birth really doesn't matter to me. I don't have a deep-seated need to deliver babies vaginally but I think when I joined BB I kind of got caught up in the idea that a vaginal, drug-free birth is the pinnacle of excellence.

My first VB left me with physical pain that I still have nearly five years later (I had severe SPD which was greatly exacerbated by the pushing position I was in for nearly three hours). It meant that I couldn't be the mum I wanted to be to DD - I couldn't get down on the floor to play with her, could barely leave the house for the first six months because walking was so painful etc. etc. etc.

After that, I couldn't care less really about VB versus caesarean - I just wanted a birth that would leave me with the least amount of physical damage. Once again, when I was pregnant with DD2, I got a little caught up in the idea that a caesarean was a 'cop-out'. Indeed, some of the members on here who'd also had SPD, had the arrogance to presume that their SPD must be the same as my SPD and because they had a VB and recovered well, it meant that I should too and anything less meant that I was a bit of a loser.

Luckily, I ignored them and their near-fanaticism and had an elective caesarean with DD2.

I felt better (physically and emotionally) after my caesarean than after my VB. After my caesarean, I felt that I could be the mum I wanted to be.

And, to me, that's all that matters.

Celebrate the way you mother your baby, not how you birthed her. Birth is one tiny part of being a mum. Lovely if it's everything you imagined but really, in the whole scheme of things, not that important (to me).

I'd give you 100 rep points if I could. The method of birth doesn't matter in the slightest. It isn't important to me either. I don't know why we need to have superior or inferior births, rather than just a celebration that new life came into the world. The rest is just ... whatever.

[glenny_c]

I'd give you 100 rep points if I could. The method of birth doesn't matter in the slightest. It isn't important to me either. I don't know why we need to have superior or inferior births, rather than just a celebration that new life came into the world. The rest is just ... whatever.

Here! Here!

[LysnDan]

I'd give you 100 rep points if I could. The method of birth doesn't matter in the slightest. It isn't important to me either. I don't know why we need to have superior or inferior births, rather than just a celebration that new life came into the world. The rest is just ... whatever.

Yeah that... It's a birth. Shes here safe.

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