living on CL alone as a single mum - paying private rental - how do you do it?

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Are you in SA (festival state?) I'm going to have a small fully furnished house available soon but not until our new house arrives - could be 3 months+ so probably not an option for you.

By 'fully furnished' I mean everything for a single or couple from teaspoons to new bed linen, but no stuff for kid's rooms.

Either way, if you're leaving with not much, you can sometimes find fully or partly furnished places around.

[Beatrix]

She is in SA hun....

gosh I wish i knew how to help more. maybe look at rentals near a laundromat? I know you would qualify for a bond from the houseing trust place so you dont need to worry about that..
centrelink can also offer loans to single parents.. can be around 300 with the pension plus 300 with FTB.. and you just pay it back fortnightly.

[briggsy's girl]

hun, i'm so sorry it's come about like this. truly i am. it's horrible to be stuck in a situation you feel you can't escape. if you've been on pps for a while you may be eligible for an advance to give you extra funds to get out. have you queried emergency housing recently for you and bilby? get on the phone to c'link, ask to be put through to a social worker, and get whatever help you can get. i know you have stated you have no fear of physical violence, but from what i've read (including this most recent post) it sounds like there is a lot of emotional "control" and abuse (in it's own way) - as horrible as it is, this might be the shove you need to get out.

on the confidentiality front - i don't want people thinking c'link has done anything wrong because they haven't breached confidentiality. generally sep under one roof requires statements from both parties (which would mean both know), and even if that hasn't happened, when the processing is done, your files are unlinked so it would have been a general comment about not requiring the information as you are no longer linked (sorry, i know it's semantics - just wanted to mention because of the fact c'link cops enough flack)

i know your DD is older than mine, so i can't help with a lot, but if there is anything you need in terms of linen, please, let me know. it may not be top end, but we have single and double bed stuff i can mail over (even if it's to Nessa to get it to you), towels etc. we're about to move so we've been doing a massive cull and this stuff is going to be sent to st vinnies anyway

[Beatrix]

Im willing to help out any way BG!!!!!

I dont have anything extra.. but I will store stuff in my car port and will hunt down things on free cycle from now on

[briggsy's girl]

let me know what you need hun. as i said, i've got heaps here. i can hold off sending stuff to st vinnies (were planning on using the sheets as packing material for moving anyway, so it's not a rush thing) - whenever you need it, i can send it over

[Gigi]

thanks so much.

for the last few years, i have been stocking up on towels and sheets, precisely for this situation, so we are fine on that front. But i really appreciate the offer. i've been opshopping for years (to survive) so am used to doing that.

i think everything hinges on me finding somewhere to live. cos until that happens, i have nowhere to send our stuff, or store stuff from freecycle. i don't even know how i would transport stuff from freecycle (no towbar and no towing knowledge).

i have an hour left of today (before he gets home), the day has gone so fast, i've gone thru some "important documents" stuff, but i don't feel like i'm being very effective, feeling overwhelmed alot.

Rumpled Elf, PM me about the house, where is it? are we talking city or country? housing trust list is 20 years long (i'm catergory two), so to wait a few months? that sounds pretty good to me.

Brigsy, you are right, there are many economic and emotional type abuses going on here, but each time i ask a DV helpline, i get told i don't qualify because i don't get physically hit.

Sorry to vent about CL, i know it had to come out sooner or later - just didn't bank on it being THIS soon. (only a week). i thought i would have at least until September up my sleeve (when rent review gets done). I have had two very helpful CL people help me in last month. (in real life offices). i have an appointment with a CL soc wkr tomorrow afternoon. fingers crossed.

i feel like i will be setting up home, from scratch almost (like when i was 17) but with a child to keep happy, secure and safe at the same time. it feels so daunting, thank you all for your comments and kind words, it means alot to me.

[briggsy's girl]

does anyone know how much it would cost to courier a washing machine and dryer over to sa from vic? we have spare ones here. actually, we will probably have to get rid of a bit of stuff that might be able to help out. if we get the sized house we think we'll get, we may have a spare kitchen setting too. i don't want to have to pay for a storage unit for any period of time, so PLEASE, let me know and we can arrange something. our house hasn't sold yet (hopefully soon) so it's not time sensitive to get it out atm. it's just sitting here as we got a larger set and haven't decided what to do (we were going to set it up in shed for DH's work stuff - but then he lost his job... sigh)

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Pah, moving house. I just got an email from the builder saying it is going to council and give us $2000 and sign your life away now thanks so maybe our new house is closer than we think

Housing trust list is insanely long, you need to be very much an emergency case to jump that queue and private rentals are getting more expensive by the day.

[Traveller]

does anyone know how much it would cost to courier a washing machine and dryer over to sa from vic? we have spare ones here. actually, we will probably have to get rid of a bit of stuff that might be able to help out. if we get the sized house we think we'll get, we may have a spare kitchen setting too. i don't want to have to pay for a storage unit for any period of time, so PLEASE, let me know and we can arrange something. our house hasn't sold yet (hopefully soon) so it's not time sensitive to get it out atm. it's just sitting here as we got a larger set and haven't decided what to do (we were going to set it up in shed for DH's work stuff - but then he lost his job... sigh)

contact a removals company who does interstate moves. If you only have a few things they will be able to transport them with someone else's full house move and it will not cost very much at all.