hun, i'm so sorry it's come about like this. truly i am. it's horrible to be stuck in a situation you feel you can't escape. if you've been on pps for a while you may be eligible for an advance to give you extra funds to get out. have you queried emergency housing recently for you and bilby? get on the phone to c'link, ask to be put through to a social worker, and get whatever help you can get. i know you have stated you have no fear of physical violence, but from what i've read (including this most recent post) it sounds like there is a lot of emotional "control" and abuse (in it's own way) - as horrible as it is, this might be the shove you need to get out.

on the confidentiality front - i don't want people thinking c'link has done anything wrong because they haven't breached confidentiality. generally sep under one roof requires statements from both parties (which would mean both know), and even if that hasn't happened, when the processing is done, your files are unlinked so it would have been a general comment about not requiring the information as you are no longer linked (sorry, i know it's semantics - just wanted to mention because of the fact c'link cops enough flack)

i know your DD is older than mine, so i can't help with a lot, but if there is anything you need in terms of linen, please, let me know. it may not be top end, but we have single and double bed stuff i can mail over (even if it's to Nessa to get it to you), towels etc. we're about to move so we've been doing a massive cull and this stuff is going to be sent to st vinnies anyway