thanks so much.

for the last few years, i have been stocking up on towels and sheets, precisely for this situation, so we are fine on that front. But i really appreciate the offer. i've been opshopping for years (to survive) so am used to doing that.

i think everything hinges on me finding somewhere to live. cos until that happens, i have nowhere to send our stuff, or store stuff from freecycle. i don't even know how i would transport stuff from freecycle (no towbar and no towing knowledge).

i have an hour left of today (before he gets home), the day has gone so fast, i've gone thru some "important documents" stuff, but i don't feel like i'm being very effective, feeling overwhelmed alot.

Rumpled Elf, PM me about the house, where is it? are we talking city or country? housing trust list is 20 years long (i'm catergory two), so to wait a few months? that sounds pretty good to me.

Brigsy, you are right, there are many economic and emotional type abuses going on here, but each time i ask a DV helpline, i get told i don't qualify because i don't get physically hit.

Sorry to vent about CL, i know it had to come out sooner or later - just didn't bank on it being THIS soon. (only a week). i thought i would have at least until September up my sleeve (when rent review gets done). I have had two very helpful CL people help me in last month. (in real life offices). i have an appointment with a CL soc wkr tomorrow afternoon. fingers crossed.

i feel like i will be setting up home, from scratch almost (like when i was 17) but with a child to keep happy, secure and safe at the same time. it feels so daunting, thank you all for your comments and kind words, it means alot to me.